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How do I get Free from Porn?

“How many roads must a man walk down
before you can call him a man?”

-Bob Dylan, Blowing in the Wind







I cannot name a singular silver bullet, but you need to get on the path to greater spiritual health. The fact that you are so hungry for porn shows there’s something unhealthy inside that needs repentance and healing.

This usually involves help from others. If you are a man, you need a safe, mature man (or men) to talk with. If you are a woman, you need a safe, gracious woman (women) to speak with. It is important as part of the path of repentance and healing to find out how to get your needs and “soul thirsts” (security, affirmation, affection, significance, intimacy) met in healthy ways so that you are not so quick to run to the poisonous waters of porn for satisfaction. Porn is always a false medication which will make your root problems worse, not better. A closer walk with God and more open, honest and loving relationships with his people is the beginning of the journey.

Interestingly, this isn’t just the path we take to recover from porn, but from many sins which can become so easily enslaving.



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